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<body class='hmmessage'><div dir='ltr'>Next step in your reasoning, to come closer to the truth...<br><br>... imagine the majority of your peers behave like kids...<br><br>... and plan for an intelligent solution.<br><br><br>Good luck.<br><br><br>Antonio.<br><br>> Date: Tue, 9 Apr 2013 11:15:28 +0200<br>> From: zzbbyy@gmail.com<br>> To: pp.international.general@lists.pirateweb.net<br>> Subject: [pp.int.general] Beating someone with a stick to change his mind<br>> <br>> I have just finished<br>> http://www.gordontraining.com/store/parent-programs/parent-effectiveness-training-p-e-t-book-3/<br>> - I would recommend it to everyone here, not only to parents.<br>> <br>> According to it there are three ways parents can resolve conflicts<br>> with children. The first two are:<br>> <br>> 1. Children do what parent wants.<br>> <br>> 2. Parent do what child wants.<br>> <br>> In other ways this is about coercion - either parent coerces the child<br>> (by punishment or by bribes) or the child coerces the parent (by being<br>> terrible). They are often kind of automatic default way, but there is<br>> also a third way that we use when we deal with people that are our<br>> peers: it is about negotiating, sometimes the effect is a compromise,<br>> sometimes it is a completely new solution that is acceptable to both<br>> sides.<br>> <br>> I have the feeling that some people try to use this list a coercion<br>> mechanism - they attack people verbally and think that this will beat<br>> the other side into submission, but:<br>> <br>> 1. Beating someone is not a good way to change his mind.<br>> <br>> 2. Attacking someone on a mailing list is a very ineffective way to<br>> beat him - it is all imaginary and it will never coerce that someone<br>> into submission. It only opens an endless spiral of flames.<br>> <br>> We are all peers here - please use appropriate means of conflict resolution.<br>> <br>> --<br>> Zbigniew Lukasiak<br>> http://brudnopis.blogspot.com/<br>> http://perlalchemy.blogspot.com/<br>> ____________________________________________________<br>> Pirate Parties International - General Talk<br>> pp.international.general@lists.pirateweb.net<br>> http://lists.pirateweb.net/mailman/listinfo/pp.international.general<br> </div></body>
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