[pp.int.general] Beating someone with a stick to change his mind
ningunotro at hotmail.com
Tue Apr 9 19:45:54 CEST 2013
Next step in your reasoning, to come closer to the truth...
... imagine the majority of your peers behave like kids...
... and plan for an intelligent solution.
> Date: Tue, 9 Apr 2013 11:15:28 +0200
> From: zzbbyy at gmail.com
> To: pp.international.general at lists.pirateweb.net
> Subject: [pp.int.general] Beating someone with a stick to change his mind
> I have just finished
> - I would recommend it to everyone here, not only to parents.
> According to it there are three ways parents can resolve conflicts
> with children. The first two are:
> 1. Children do what parent wants.
> 2. Parent do what child wants.
> In other ways this is about coercion - either parent coerces the child
> (by punishment or by bribes) or the child coerces the parent (by being
> terrible). They are often kind of automatic default way, but there is
> also a third way that we use when we deal with people that are our
> peers: it is about negotiating, sometimes the effect is a compromise,
> sometimes it is a completely new solution that is acceptable to both
> I have the feeling that some people try to use this list a coercion
> mechanism - they attack people verbally and think that this will beat
> the other side into submission, but:
> 1. Beating someone is not a good way to change his mind.
> 2. Attacking someone on a mailing list is a very ineffective way to
> beat him - it is all imaginary and it will never coerce that someone
> into submission. It only opens an endless spiral of flames.
> We are all peers here - please use appropriate means of conflict resolution.
> Zbigniew Lukasiak
> Pirate Parties International - General Talk
> pp.international.general at lists.pirateweb.net
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